Gender Disappointment.

As a new mom-to-be, I frequent forums with other moms-to-be. I'm in some groups where the members are exclusively new moms, which means this is their first child, and other groups where people are on their second, third, fourth, etc. Both groups have something in common - the birth month - March 2017, so we're all around the same gestation.

At 20 weeks of pregnancy, you go for an anatomy ultrasound, wherein the technician takes several measurements of the baby and makes sure everything is in tip-top shape. This is also where the sex of the baby is revealed, if you're interested. 

The posts I'm seeing a disturbing amount of are posts where the moms are disappointed with the sex of their baby - both first time moms and experienced. I can tell you that from the beginning, when morning sickness kicked in - and HARD - I and everyone in the family, thought girl. Old wives tales piled up on the girl side and only two pointed towards boy. I can't say that I believed the old wives tales, but it was getting increasingly harder to keep an open mind when everyone around was heavily implying girl. . .so I got used to the idea of having a girl. 

At the anatomy scan, we were told it was a boy. Emotions filled my body and I was ecstatic! I went in, thinking we would hear girl, but instead we heard boy. I didn't know how much I wanted a little boy until it became real. I am beyond thrilled. I would have been thrilled for a girl as well. 

I started to feel this little baby move around 18 weeks. Since then, they moved everyday and become more and more active as the days passed. This is what really made the pregnancy seem real for me. Seeing the heartbeat at 7 weeks was amazing and such a relief, but it's really the movement that make it real for me. So I, inevitably, fell in love with my little baby. I honestly think no matter which gender we heard at our scan, I don't think it would have changed my feelings at all. 

There are several moms who are so disappointed by what they heard - to the point of body-wracking sobs. I, personally, can't understand what they're feeling, but yet, I feel so very bad for them. The posts mention how they feel guilty for their disappointment. I want so badly to respond, but I am at a loss of words. What could you say to someone in that case? 'I'm sorry you're not happy, but I hope it works out'? That just seems insensitive. I've been sending good vibes from afar. I can only hope that that helps.